Saturday, March 29, 2014

Viability and Pregnancy Paranoia

Yesterday, I officially hit the 24 week mark in my pregnancy.  Woohoo!  Viability!  This means that if our daughter should choose to make an early appearance, she would have a decent chance of survival (with a little help).  Ideally, she waits until her due date, but it does take a lot of stress off of me.

I have been ridiculously paranoid this pregnancy.  We had a bit of a scare at the beginning when I was spotting off and on for a few weeks.  I keep setting goals for myself to stop worrying.  "Once we go to the 8 week ultrasound and see the heartbeat, I'll stop worrying...once we hit the end of the first trimester and the risk of miscarriage drops, I'll stop worrying...once I feel the baby move every day, I'll stop worrying...once I hit the 24 week mark, I'll stop worrying."

Newsflash:  I haven't stopped worrying.  Most of the time, I merrily go about my day, living my life, very excited and hopeful about this baby.  But every now and then, I have a moment of panic and terror.  How long has it been since she moved last?  Is she okay?  Did I take my prenatal vitamin?  Did I eat something that could hurt my baby?  Was that last physical activity too strenuous?  Was that shower/bath too hot?  DID I JUST KILL MY BABY?!?!?!

So far, the moments are brief and pass quickly, and I laugh at myself for overreacting.  It doesn't help to read about horror stories like cervical incompetence, placental abruption, amniotic fluid leaks, etc.  After I read these stories, I sit there for a while trying to figure out if I have any of those symptoms.  Was that round ligament pain or the beginnings of an early labor cramp?  Is my discharge waterier than usual?  I don't know, what was it like before?  And it doesn't end with things that could be happening to my body.  I have never enjoyed driving, but suddenly it seems like the streets are filled with maniacs.  Am I sitting too close to the steering wheel?  Is that other car going to hit me?  People in stores and other public places are suddenly crawling with infectious diseases.  I just know that I am going to catch some terrible virus that could hurt my baby.

This state of paranoia is so foreign to me.  I am usually a super calm, laid-back person.  I know that the worrying never truly goes away, even after the baby is safely born.  It just changes into a different type of worry.  And I truly have relaxed a bit now that I can feel the baby move regularly and have reached the 24 week mark.  And like I said, 95% of the time, I am very relaxed and excited about this pregnancy.  But still...I worry.

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